Self-Confidence


Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.” —Malcolm S. Forbes
As far back as I can remember, I have been called shy and I never really understood why people thought that way. I always thought that I was confident and outgoing but I knew I didn't like opening up to new people.
 For a long time I had the mentality that only close friends and family needed to know 'the real me'.

A few years ago I was told that I come across rude due to my 'resting bitch face' and I was really bothered by the comment because I am the complete opposite. Each time someone said I was shy or quiet, I withdrew myself even more and hated being around people I didn't know. I never told anyone how I was feeling and just carried on with life because being shy isn't a big deal, right?... WRONG!

I knew there was something wrong when I realised that I couldn't look someone in the eyes for more than a couple of seconds at a time when we were talking. I then noticed other little things I did and knew I was being socially awkward but not in an obvious way, if that makes sense. 

Also another problem that I know causes a lot of people to lack self-confidence is their weight; I have put on a significant amount of weight in the past year or two and being that I'm African, a day doesn't go by that I am not reminded of this. 

Putting on weight has definitely been my biggest demon and although it's easy to get a membership and go gym 3-4 times a week, I was discouraged mentally and depressed the whole of last year especially and as a result, obviously I put on more weight. By saying this I just want people to know that for some people it's more than going to the gym and eating clean. When your mindset is messed up, it takes A LOT to be be yourself again.

I have recently picked up some great tools to regain my confidence and I can honestly say that I've learned so much about myself and will continue for as long as it takes. I wouldn't say that I'm now the most confident person ever because that would be a lie BUT I'm happy with my progress so far and I'm back at the gym getting this body RIGHT!

Tips for self- confidence

Smile more
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Be Positive
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Do not accept failure
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DO NOT STAY AT HOME!
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Improve your posture
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Interact with new people
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Challenge yourself
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Stay true to you

Everyone has a personal battle and no one is perfect, sometime's the loudest in the room is dealing with the most unimaginable problems. 

Through this journey of mine, I have found what I would like to do as a career and little did I know, its something that I have always loved doing. Basically I've decided that I want to be a 'TRAVEL BLOGGER'. It may sound crazy but I LOVEEEE travelling so much and I want to travel the world and learn about different cultures and YES meet new people :)  

I will be starting a YouTube channel next month, vlogging some of my travels, as well other lifestlyle related videos. I'm ready for the challenge and I hope I can motivate some of you to chase your dreams. 

A little disclaimer: I don't know everything, I make mistakes too and I'm taking life as it comes and I thank God everyday for giving me the courage to be better a person. 

Love

Zina Tara

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